Monday, 23 August 2010

Parenting without Punishment

07 pretty scarfA new article of mine was published on Essence of Life; it’s about the dangers of punishing children and how to raise them respectfully without punishments. You can read it HERE

(and I’m posting a cute picture of Litteltree just coz – she’s so sweet with my scarf on)


  1. beautiful article! One I will pass on to many friends:)

  2. Little Tree is a doll! I loved your article, and it makes so much sense. Something like this would require both parents to be in agreement, though. Any advise on how to convince the other parent to practice this type of parenting method?

    (I usually reply with a diff id, but you don't allow anonymous posting)

  3. thanks :) anonymous, have you given your partner anything to read? Alfie Kohn has a couple of good books - Punished by Rewards and Unconditional Parenting.
    I usually start with the point that if something would be disrespectful to do to a partner, good friend, or work colleague, then it's probably disrespectful to do to children as well.

  4. Loved this article...and scanned through the rest of your writing...and it's all fabulous!

    I have teenagers now, and I can tell you that it is really important to raise children without the fear of punishment hanging over their heads all the time. I think my kids are more balanced because we choose to talk it out instead of instantly reacting!


  5. I'm not sure my partner would read them, but I will give it a try. It is so true that you wouldn't 'punish' or be disrespectful to anyone else, so why to a child? It can be a frustrating situation, though, when both parents aren't in agreement on this type of thing. Thanks for sharing.

  6. Awesome aricle.
    I wish I could remember to always parent as peacefully and respectfully as you do.

  7. thanks :)
    Ariad, I know you're a great mum


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