Transitions

Apparently Mercury has been in retrograde, and as we all know, mercury is poisonous. So weird things happen.

Purple and I have separated, which is one big change. Actually, it’s a huge change! It’s been eight weeks now since he came home from vacation at the Rainbow Gathering in Washington State and told me he wants to break up.

We’ve been married for eight years, and despite a lot of ups and downs, it all seemed to be going well. I do get a lot of questions about the nature of our relationship – yes, we were polyamorous, and no, that’s not the reason we broke up.

It’s been a rough couple of months for me, going through teh dramaz with Purple moving out, and then not moving out, he wasn’t talking to me for a while and shut himself in his bedroom. I also (unrelatedly) broke up with my girlfriend; my beloved, who broke my heart. So I’m entirely single for the first time in many years. It’s been a very depressing couple of months, and really feeling like I’m barely hanging on at times.

Now that we’ve had a bit of time to work things out and a little space, Purple and I have decided to stay living together, at least for the time being. We are, after all, still best friends, and we’re still parents to Littletree.

We have our own bedrooms and it makes a lot of sense in many ways to be housemates. We’ve started the process of subdividing our block of land, with future plans for Purple to build a house on the other half. Who knows what the future will bring!

In the meantime, I’m feeling very “wrung out”, and coping as best I can. Littletree is a total champ. She told me one day: ‘no offence, mama, but when you and Aba argue, it’s your fault. Because even though it seems like he always starts it by saying something that’s mean, you have to remember that he’s too stupid to start fights!’ LOL

She’s a resilient kid, and very pragmatic. I can’t believe how much she’s growing up.

So tomorrow Purple goes back to Israel for a while, and who knows what will happen. Meanwhile, life goes on :)

Gluten-Free Pizza

Ariad came over for a visit, and since she commented about wishing for a gluten-free lactose-intolerant pizza, I set about making one. I’m just that awesome. And I love Ariad :D

So I made up a huge batch of regular pizza dough, and a smaller batch using organic gluten-free flour. I made a yummy pizza sauce, and instead of cheese I put crumbled up fried tempeh, and topped with mushrooms, garlic and olives. Heart-shaped, of course!

Yum! And the pizza was delish too!

Of course, I made loads and loads of pizza, so we invited all the neighbours in to join us with all the left-over Guinness from the weekend’s party (yes, we are aware that we’ve let the Irish side down by having beer left over)

Super-awesome fun :) and Ariad was even polite enough to not mention that gluten-free cheese-free pizza kinda sucks LOL

Wonderful Weekend

Enjoying the quiet time is fun, but even better to spend time with someone special.

Ariad from Rainbow Love Farm has been visiting, which is awesome. We went out with my neighbours for dinner at the local pub on Thursday night (where they do a good curry).

Then we went out dancing Friday night, which was loads of fun. I jumped around like a mad thing and had a great time.

Life is good :) and the fact that I just have a few days to get ready to go overseas, and I still don’t have a passport, and I still have a client due to give birth any moment, and I still have to organise the renovation of our kitchen which will happen while I’m away, and I have a billion things to do before I leave on Friday… okay, well that stuff is kind of stressing me out. But having Ariad around does take my mind off it :D

New Article – Parenting Partnerships

A new article of mine was published on Essence of Life about having respectful partnerships, and how we as parents can work together to model open communication for our children. You can read the article HERE

The timing is quite apt, being that today is Purple and my anniversary – 8 years since we snuck off to an office in Cyprus for a “passport wedding”. It was a fun adventure, and the paper we got out of it certainly made life easier for a lot of bureaucratic dramas we’ve since had to navigate. We certainly don’t take the ‘legally wed’ part of it very seriously.

Our relationship might be somewhat unconventional, being polyamorous, and some what challenging, but through open communication, honest sharing of feelings and lots of patience, it works for us… well, most of the time.